A chemical-free home

It’s impossible to avoid all chemicals. We need some of them; that’s why they were created. But they are abundant in almost every product we use when they don’t need to be. Fragrances are the biggest culprit. On average, they contain a combination of 50-300 chemicals to make that scent. There have been over 80,000 chemicals added after the 1940s and the Federal Food, Drug, and Cosmetic Act hasn’t been seriously updated since it was passed in 1938.

It’s overwhelming once you learn about all of the chemicals in your daily deodorants, toothpastes, soaps, detergents, and (obviously) cleaning sprays. An easy way to educate yourself is to download the Think Dirty or EWG apps. Search your normal go-to items to learn about what’s bad in the products you use and why. I always tell people to swap out one or two things at a time. Swap for a healthier cleaning option once you empty a bottle of something. Otherwise you will be spending a lot of money and making more waste. You don’t need to buy all new stuff — many chemical-free alternatives can be used for your cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc. But if you have the money, always opt for chemical-free and donate the old unused stuff. We can’t save everyone quite yet!

Why I went chemical free?

If you’ve read my blog or know me, you’ve come to the conclusion that I have some health issues. Chemicals can affect every body system from neurological to digestive (head to toe). By controlling what I can, I give myself the best health I can offer my body. You only get one body; you need to nourish it. I was amazed how quickly my body adapted to being chemical-free and how sensitive I became around high-chemical products. My migraines have always made me super scent sensitive, but it’s amazing how your nose adapts after chemicals. You will cringe at scented trashcans and Yankee candles. Most people find that scary and wouldn’t want this, but it’s amazing how in-tune you can become with your body once you are able to listen to it. Removing the chemicals and preservatives from my life allowed me to focus on my health issues without other obstacles that the food and chemicals were causing me without my knowledge.

Where to start?

Some easy swaps to start with include the following:

  • Toss your perfumes and sprays. Look into investing in essential oils. I use doTERRA personally. You need to find a reputable brand that makes 100% pure oils. Avoid “aromatherapy grade” and “fragrance grade.” The best companies are as follows: doTERRA, Young Living, Plant Therapy, or Edens Garden (the cheapest).
  • Swap your deodorant for a natural one. Our common deodorants contain parabens and aluminum which affect our hormones. *Look for ones with essential oil fragrances, not ones that just list “natural fragrances.” I like the powdered ones but Native is a safe and available stick brand.
  • Throw out your dryer sheets and get some wool dryer balls. The chemicals in dryer sheets and some softeners can cause eczema as well as asthma and hormone issues. You can add quality essential oils to the dryer balls to add scent. There are still safe laundry softeners out there; brands I use are listed at the end of this post.
  • Toss out your plastic. This is an easy but expensive one; switch to glass storage and drinking canisters or stainless. They will last forever and are safe from any chemicals. They even make cute sleeves to protect them from drops and falls!
  • Toss the plug-ins. Buy a diffuser; make or buy beeswax candles. Learn to have a green thumb by using plants/herbs to cook, clean, and purify the air with. If you can’t tell, I love my oils. But I love plants even more. I wish I was able to grow everything I get as an oil. Luckily what I can’t grow, I can replace with a couple drops of oils. I despise air fresheners, and this is an easy and healthy way to live chemical-free and help your health and your families. Making candles are fun and can save you money in the long run. If you want to buy them, look for beeswax candles with essential oils, not “fragrance.”
  • Look into paperless cleaning. Norwex has an awesome antibacterial rag that you can clean without cleaner!
  • Make your own cleaning solutions! There are hundreds of “healthy” or natural” cleaning companies. To deep clean, you need chemicals. Some are better than others, and the best have simple ingredients that you can make yourself for a quarter of the price! Here’s a supply list to get started:
    • Glass spray bottles
    • White vinegar
    • Castile soap
    • Natural salt
    • Baking soda
    • Borax
    • Peroxide
    • Lemons
    • Essential Oils (Pure)
    • Click this link for some cleaning recipes

Not ready to conquer your inner homestead lifestyle and make your DIY cleaning supplies?

Totally fine! I’m all about convenience and time management, so I understand. Do yourself a favor and download the Think Dirty or EWG apps for your phone. They will help you look up what you clean with, why it’s bad, and what to use instead. Here are some safe brands I keep around the house, all available at Target:

  • Seventh Generation (fragrance-free)
  • Dr. Bronner’s (all products!)
  • ECOS
  • Puracy
  • Attitude
  • Molly Suds

I hope this helps you live a more chemical-free lifestyle! Feel free to ask questions.

With everything going on in the world right now, we are learning the power of germs. Now that more people are becoming increasingly aware, pay attention to the chemicals that you put in you and your family’s lives. Stay Well and Live a Long and Healthy Life!

What is being present to you?

First off what is being “present” ? More and more people are using this word, making this their goal, but what does it mean? This word I’m sure has a google definition, but it is whatever it means to you. To me being present is to give all of your mind and self to the current situation. Being mentally aware of your surroundings and simply being joyful for what life presents you.

This can be hard for us to do in our busy lifestyles. We were all raised to be thankful but we were also raised to get our lists and chores done. It’s hard to breathe some days when life hits you and the list gets longer. When you feel this overwhelmed feeling is when you need to pause and appreciate “the little things”. Something I blogged about a few blogs back, and doing so allowing yourself to be present.

Think of where you have the most stress in your day and how you can mold it into a positive by being present. If you feel stress at work (most of us), start with something small. First off, take that lunch break that you don’t get paid for. Do some breathe work, meditate, go outside, put on some essential oils and get off your phone. Read a book or journal. Enjoy your food instead of shoveling it in. A harder one to build up to, but is most important to me, is to eat alone. You are with these people all day, you need a break to be present and reconnect with yourself. It will help lower your stress of your work day and it allows you to just enjoy your time alone and b r e a t h e. If you are eating with coworkers, simply get off your phone, make eye contact to your colleagues and engage in a conversation that brings you away from work (meaning not gossiping about work or your annoying client/patient). We are all guilty of lunch time gossiping. At home start with a routine something small such as journaling, morning tea or meditation and work up to a bigger commitment such as hiking in nature daily.

In today’s rush we all think too much, seek too much, and forget about the joy of just being

Eckhart Tolle

For my pain sufferers, I know this is easier said than done. Turning off your mind while your right in the middle of your pain cycle can be hard. My mind is constantly going to that annoying noise, smell or trigger to my migraines. Putting me in a downward spiral and allowing my anxiety to surface, allowing the fear of the pain that is going to come enter. When you realize you are doing this, stop, turn off the hamster wheel in tour head and ACCEPT you cannot change or avoid every environment that has triggers. Personally, when I catch myself in this downward spiral or if I’m already suffering in pain at work I pause, and allow myself to be present. Look around at your day. What have you gotten done, look at the positives and just be thankful for your day so far. My pain is a huge part of my life, but it doesn’t control me. Some days it does, but it does not and will not control my life. I can control how I react.

If you know me personally you would never know how much pain I’m in. I mask it well until it’s too much for me to get through and am stuck on the couch with ice over my eyes. I’m not saying ignore the pain. Ignoring it was a bad mistake I did for years. Accept that you are in pain but you are in control of your mind, and let it know you are boss. But more importantly not letting it ruin every day of your life. Enjoy being present and what it in front of you, instead of retreating and sorrowing in pain.

The list of doctors I’ve seen on my journey of fighting pain

I have people ask me all the time—when they know someone with headaches—if that person can talk to me. Absolutely! But remember: everyone’s journey is different. One thing that is the same? Headaches that don’t go away are NOT normal. Many of us (myself included, for years) ignore this fact. Daily headaches are considered a migraine disorder, and they can wreck your world.

Chronic inflammation can lead to many things, including disease and structural issues.

Chronic stress and inflammation keep your body in constant “fight or flight” mode. Being in this sympathetic state prevents your gut from working properly, which leads to a whole slew of issues including food intolerances and leaky gut. Our gut is our second brain—so if you have headaches, your actual brain is already struggling. Ignoring the pain is not the answer.

Figuring out the cause is a difficult puzzle. For me (and many others), it’s a combination of factors. Below is a list of what I’ve tried and what’s been most helpful. My headaches are still a work in progress, but I’ve learned that chronic pain led to multiple body systems compensating for years, clenching and tightening of muscles (which created other problems), and a leaky gut from chronic medication use and inflammation.

These are not diagnoses most Western medical doctors talk about or educate patients on. This is what I learned about my body—and many chronic pain sufferers are in the same boat. After all the specialists I’ve seen, I’ve realized how important individualized patient care is. Chronic pain is unique to each person, and most of us are not textbook cases. In the end, holistic health providers were my saving grace. I hope my journey helps guide you toward healing❣️

* These are all my personal experiences, and I always recommend talking to a trained medical professional first *

Below are my lists from my Holistic Journey followed by my Western Medicine journey. My holistic route has provided me with the greatest relief over any medicine thus far and is why I went back to school ❤️

  • Naturopathic Doctors: A great place for someone who wants to go the Holistic route and feel like they have tried everything. I spent a TON of money here and it got me to where I am now. They do a lot of validating tests and supplements and if I knew what an NTP was at the time, I could have saved a lot of money and come to the same conclusions without all the tests and supplements. They do find and treat the root cause. This cause may not be obvious, and probably isn’t if you landed here. They analyze your blood work in a different way than a normal doctor would while testing additional levels I’ve never had tested prior. You will be guided on what herbs, supplements, and tinctures to take to heal your body. These doctors are well educated and treat much more than pain. A lot of them focus on your gut which is extremely important for pain, digestive issues, and depression/anxiety!
  • Diet Eliminations: Don’t get me wrong — This is hard, but if it fixes your pain, it’s worth it all. I started with the common triggers: nitrates, wine, chocolate, artificial sugars and coloring, and MSG (which is in everything; see all the names it hides under and my favorite migraine diet that has led me to a lot of my triggers here). Food tests are great but NOT the FIRST place to start. You can ask about getting your iGg food antibodies tested. This tests your body’s inflammatory response to certain foods and will make it easier to know what to eliminate. Unfortunately, if you are chronically inflamed, most of the food you eat will show up (healthy or not).
  • Herbal Medicines: Consult your doctor before. A lot of medications have an unknown reaction to herbs, so you need to be cautious. Herbs are medications 😊. I love herbal teas (good homemade ones without the sugars and preservatives).
    • I’ve searched online for a quick and reputable list of the popular ones that are safer to use here.
    • Here is my stock pile list of herbs for pain and headaches: Magnesium, Feverew, Butterbur, CoQ10 Enzyme, White Willow Bark, Ginko Biloba, Ashwaghasha, Dong quai, Ginger, Lavender, Rosemary and Peppermint. Remember to consult a professional prior to using herbs; there are a lot of drug interactions here and interactions with pregnancy.
    • I am able to recommend supplements to you, but please check with your doctor if you are on other medications. I have a few that have really helped me! Liquid omegas and a good probiotic can go a long way with healing your gut and inflammation. Click on the supplement link on the drop down menu to check out the websites for a 10% discount.
  • Chiropractor: Now I will say- your minerals need to be balanced for adjustments to HOLD! Most can help with jaw pain, neck pain, and headaches, but more importantly, your posture which can cause a cascading effect of pain up or down your body. I have learned that this should be a “every now and again” treatment. Your ligaments get used to being stretched and the vertebrae essentially pop into place with your adjustment. The more you go, the more mobile they become, actually allowing them to be put out of place easier. Look into fixing your posture alongside a chiropractor adjustment here and there.
  • Massage Therapist: This one is one of my favorite therapies, but this is out of pocket and can get expensive. I love my Holistic one that also practices Reiki. My knots used to return in hours because I’ve been tight for so many years, but with help from physical therapy, this is a great monthly treat! If you can’t splurge on this, at least look into self-massaging. Massage helps move our lymphatic system which ultimately allows us to move toxins through and out of our body, making us able to strengthen our immune system and fight that chronic inflammation!
  • Acupuncture: This is my favorite 😍. This helps your mind, body, and soul heal. My headaches are too complex to be fixed by acupuncture, but this is one of the few things that give me temporary relief, and they can help with multiple issues at once! If you are local to the Harford County area in Maryland, check out my acupuncturist Chris. He takes insurance!
  • Float Therapy: This is basically a pool with a ton of magnesium salts. Magnesium deficiency can cause a lot of muscle issues and headaches. I had a hard time meditating and relaxing that long, and the water is body temp (not a nice hot soaking experience as I expected), but my muscles felt amazing after!
  • Medical Hypnosis: Anxiety and habits play a big part in pain. Mindset is honestly everything. If you don’t believe in yourself and the ability to heal, you are not going to be able to heal. If you don’t already, look into meditating. I use the Daily Calm app. It isn’t easy at first, but if you consistently meditate, your mindset will shift and I bet you will start healing.

List of Western Medical specialists I’ve seen over the years:

  • Neurologist: I saw over five. They each gave me medication after medication with side affects. It is important to rule out autoimmune and structural causes, but ask about diets also! Chronic headaches identify as a headache pain that doesn’t go away with over-the-counter medications, or if you suffer more than 15 episodes a month, you should see a neurologist. Let’s have a side chat about Tylenol and Motrin: If it’s not working, stop taking it. You should not be taking these medications more than 3x a week. I used to take it daily, just in the hope that it could help. I now only take these medications when I really need them and for reasons not related to headaches. These medications can be detrimental to your body if used and abused, and this is a common thing done since we all have access to it.
    • There are different “sub-types” of neurologists. I’ve seen Headache Specialists, Muscular Sclerosis specialists, Autonomic Nervous System specialists, and probably tons more I can’t think of, but start with a general one that specializes in headaches and/or concussions. They will begin with imaging of your head/neck/brain to check for any structural abnormalities, begin blood work to look for deficiencies, and begin providing medications for you to trial.
    • Medication Usage: My gut had secretly became “leaky” from all the years of trialing different medications in the hope that one would help the pain. This caused serious inflammation in my body leading to a whole list of food intolerance and environmental sensitivities. If a problem is not identified in the initial stages of testing, I suggest you try a elimination diet, massages, or acupuncture before the long-term medication route. You are probably desperate; I was and that’s why I took medications for years and underwent years of injections. In the long run, it made me worse. Some would help briefly but were masking the symptoms, not fixing the root cause of the problem. This is ultimately your decision, but there’s my soapbox about medication use.
  • ENT: I had two sinus surgeries before realizing my facial pain was actually jaw pain and migraines. (This is apparently super common)! Prior to these surgeries, I underwent multiple rounds of antibiotics with no pain relief. These were essentially unneeded and contributed to a leaky gut and chronic inflammation. So again, even though you’re desperate to feel better, be wary of unnecessary medication usages, ESPECIALLY antibiotics.
  • Dentist: (Yes they make special dentists!) I saw a trained TMJ/TMD Dentist. If you wake up with jaw pain and headaches, start off with a night guard that you make yourself. Then if that’s not helping, seek out your normal dentist before spending the money and time on these specialists. While they’re certainly helpful, you will save a lot of money and time if you can avoid these visits. I also believe the root cause of the clenching went away when my diet changed. Remember: dental stuff is not covered very well for adults (and a lot of time, not at all) the more specialized you get.
  • Physical Therapy: There are so many specialties here. I was very surprised when I learned this. I’ve had a ton of PT over the years. I see one who specializes in craniosacral therapy for headaches (this one has been the most successful), one specializing in TMJ/TMD, and a standard PT. Your posture has a ton of impact on your neck and shoulder strain, as well as jaw pain. It may seem “too simple” but it’s amazing how much it can help. I recommend starting here over the medication route. My chronic muscle clenching led me to having a rib removal due to the development of some serious scar tissue from compensating with bad posture from chronic pain, so again don’t ignore the pain because that surgery was no joke. A lot of Physical therapists are getting trained in dry needling — not my jam but the science behind it can help with chronic muscle knots and tightness. Again, you have to find the root cause and help increase your parasympathetic nervous system or your muscles will just go back to the tight position.
  • Cardiologists: A lot of people with chronic headaches have either low or high blood pressure; mine is low. Nutritional deficiencies can also give you heart arrhythmias and symptoms of cardiac issues and headaches! I was diagnosed with something called POTS that leaves me dizzy and lightheaded often. This is a common diagnosis for chronic pain sufferers because your body is fighting that inflammation I keep bringing up, constantly, so your body becomes more sensitive in general. Yet another reason why you should not ignore your pain.
  • Rheumatologist: Autoimmune disorders are important to be ruled out, as a lot have odd symptoms that migraine suffers get. Migraines act as an autoimmune issue and a lot of people have a hard time figuring out what came first. If it’s truly autoimmune, the medications should make you feel better and not worse as I’ve experienced on these medications. At the end of my journey I discovered something called Epstein Bar Virus (Mono) and if your body is in a chronically inflamed and sensitive state, your body may start to attack itself like an autoimmune disorder would. This results in more chronic inflammation as well as thyroid and adrenal issues. This can be fixed with some diet and supplement changes, but if you don’t discover it, you may be put on more medications, which will just make your gut worse and in turn, the inflammation. Crazy how it all keeps becoming connected to chronic inflammation and gut health, right?
  • Optometrist: Having eye strain and bad vision is an obvious cause for headaches and should be addressed. When I first had floaters before realizing I had migraines, I saw a few specialists but I cannot remember their subtitles. One diagnosed me with white blood cells (your body’s defense cells to fight infection) in my eyes from a reaction to the influenza shot. This is apparently common once your body starts fighting the inflammation like an autoimmune disorder and shows your body is in a inflammatory state and crying for help!
  • Vascular Specialist: This specialty is the surgeon that treated my Thoracic Outlet Syndrome, which resulted in two rib removals. If you ever see my posts and believe you have this disorder that caused numbness, tingling, and temperature changes among other issues, start with chiropractic care (they are actually who diagnosed me), Physical Therapy, and acupuncture. The surgery is no joke and should really be your last option. My nerve damage was becoming so bad that it would not have been reversible. I ignored this pain for a long time because my headaches were causing more pain than my hands and neck….another point on why not to ignore your pain.
  • Psychologist: Pain can cause an unbelievable amount of mental struggle. Anxiety and depression definitely accompany chronic pain. Mine was never changed with medication and I was determined the pain was the cause. I gained some coping skills from yoga and breathing. I’m grateful I don’t need to rely on medications but it’s okay if you do. We are all different people, on our own journeys. Side note: I am bringing it back to gut health. Probiotics and fixing my diet helped me a lot. The gut regulates Serotonin dramatically, which is what most antidepressants manage.
  • Pain Management: These doctors are great if you find yourself being hooked on something and you want other options. They do more than prescribe narcotics; I mean, yes, they do that too but mine actually recommended Calm magnesium and medical hypnotism.

Wow! That was a lot of doctors, and I’m certain I forgot a few. Not all are friendly and with some, you spend months on their waiting list for an appointment you felt was useless. And it certainly may have been, but it was all a part of your healing, so nothing is wasted. I’m hoping my journey and experience with them all helps you match what you are going through and what ones you need to avoid. Please feel free to comment or privately message me any questions.

I couldn’t get by in life without mediation, yoga, essential oils (my fav is doterra), and my stockpile of herbs. When I find the combination of medical doctors and Holistic treatments that work the best, I’ll be sure to share! Keep fighting warriors ✌🏻❤️.

The importance of the “small things”

I am not sure if it’s my life in chronic pain or just me getting older, but the quote, “it’s the little things that matter most” couldn’t be more true. The annoying voice that gives me anxiety about don’t do that it could give you a headache, or for most people the voice is saying you need to do ______ fill in the blank before today is over. This voice needs to be put aside. I have my best days when I abandon that voice and just live and appreciate everything put in front of me. From a beautiful sunrise and being able to watch mother nature wake up, to someone simply holding the door for you or when something just goes right. These are the little things that make you pause and smile. The laundry can wait, even though it kills the OCD part of me, so can the dishes and so can the store trips.

Feeding your body, being clean, being mentally and physically in shape and present is what is important. The little things in life give us gratitude. And being grateful for the little things can change your outlook on life. Although a clean house and checking off a list for example sure gives us the feeling of gratitude, and seems very important, it’s not. The self caused stress of cleaning or getting the checklists done is not a priority. I’m guilty and still learning that it is important to do things on its own time, when you simply have the time, and not stressing about if it. If you have the time great, if not don’t stress out your body, your emotions and affect the others around you. Yes lists are good, but treat them as goals not requirements for the day.

Because being present and enjoying life allows you to be happier than a clean house and a checklist done can give you.

Is there such thing as a waste of time?

This is something I’ve been debating lately. Having a “chronic illness” or figuring out what’s going on can be expensive medically. A lot of different specialists are consulted and time is spent during this process. Some doctors require you to see them weekly and/or need you to perform tests for an evaluation. Sadly, a lot of these specialists have great reviews and recommendations but don’t always accept insurance. It’s frustrating to spend so much money on hope and no guaranteed answers.

But one of these visits has to work and it will all be worth it, right? One of the books I’m reading says to imagine yourself with your wishes granted. Every time I picture myself pain-free and truly happy in true bliss, I cry. The joy of a pain-free life and the possibility that one of these doctors will be worth it makes the waste of time and even harder waste of money worth it.

It has to all be worth it. I have many years ahead of me to live happily as a wife and hopefully as a mother. We all deserve the chance of pure bliss. Keep fighting warriors 👍🏻